The 3 V's: Victim verses Victimizer

While I was droning on about my current crisis, a friend reminded me what another friend says, "If I had to choose, I'd rather choose to be the victim than the victimizer." (Valerie T.) This statement is empowering since it reminds us exactly what choices we do have.

Sometimes I feel so stupid and vulnerable when I don't see things coming. Like maybe I am not as sharp or smart as I should or could be, and I feel socially inadequate. However, my mind does not think like a perpetrator. This quote reminds me that I do have a choice; it reminds me that just because I don't foresee a situation, doesn't necessarily mean that I am inept. I don't foresee being mistreated because of my mindset, which is the way I think and see the world. And, the way I think and see the world is okay, the flipside would make me a victimizer, which is not what I choose to be, want to be, or how I want to see the world.

This quote also shows whose team and side we're on, the preying side or the side of the prey. Thank you Valerie, for the wise 3 v's to live by.

I just want to thank everyone who called or left a message for me yesterday. I don't think any of you understand how much that helps and how much I needed your support. I have come to learn that we cannot take the pain away of someone elses heartache, however we can make the road a little easier by being a friend. So, thank you to all of my friends, and I love you.
Janet

Joe (2:50 am)

And in the end it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
--Abraham Lincoln

It's been four years & I don't know what I miss the most. His touch, laughter, strength, humor, love, kindness, words, kisses, hands, hugs, funny business, wisdom, phone calls, smelly fish, stinky socks, clothes on the floor, snoring, or his voice. Every minute of every day, I just miss him so darn much.

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At the polls, remember to vote out those bozos who ignored our opinions and voted for the $700 billion bailout! (daveramsey.com)

The 10 Cannots

By William J. H. Boetcker

• You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift.
  
• You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.
  
• You cannot help the poor man by destroying the rich.
  
• You cannot further the brotherhood of man by inciting class hatred.
  
• You cannot build character and courage by taking away man's initiative and independence.
• You cannot help small men by tearing down big men.
  
• You cannot lift the wage earner by pulling down the wage payer.
  
• You cannot keep out of trouble by spending more than your income.
  
• You cannot establish security on borrowed money.
  
• You cannot help men permanently by doing for them what they will not do for themselves.
  

(William J. H. Boetcker (1873 – 1962) was an American religious leader and influential public speaker. An outspoken political conservative, Rev. Boetcker is perhaps best remembered for his authorship of a pamphlet entitled The Ten Cannots. Originally published in 1916, it is often misattributed to Abraham Lincoln.)