Let me clear a few things up for those who have generalized views and opinions about widows. Widows have crossed a bridge that most people haven’t crossed so there are some universal misconceptions about us.
Just because we are women and have buried our husband does not mean that we are weak and feeble. Imagine having a very bad day, and seeing your best friend in a casket. That’s kind of what it is like. We are not weak because we are women and we are not weak because we do not have a man in our lives. We are not weak because we are rot with grief and do not confuse our grief with weakness. We are probably stronger than most men and women out there who have not had to cross this bridge. But that’s okay; chances are your day is coming.
Most people who have had a person close to them die, have a common thread of hitting the wall allot quicker than usual. It is part of the grieving process and as time marches on, the wall moves further back. However, at the edge, a widow will rip your head off and leave you wondering what happened. Let me tell you what happened. The widow hit the wall, and tact and patience is not part of the survival mode. Remember don’t confuse my grief with weakness, and don’t confuse my kindness with weakness. My patience does not stretch as long as it used to, and it does not cover inconsiderate stupidity any longer.
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